Breastfeeding TTC: A Guide to New Parenting Vocabulary

As the world becomes more connected, parents are discovering a wealth of new ways to look at themselves and their children. New terms are emerging to describe parenting philosophies, encompass all demographics, and connect struggling parents with resources. This is all positive, but it can be confusing for people who aren’t sure what these words mean or why they are needed.

Co-parent

Co-parenting is when two people who are not in one romantic relationship work together to raise their child† Co-parents can be two people who have divorced, had an unexpected pregnancy, or even chose to raise a child together, despite never having been romantic partners.

When co-parents are respectful, cooperative, and supportive, their children gain the same vital sense of security and love as romantically involved parents.

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Perinatal Department

Mental disorders such as postpartum depression, postpartum psychosis, and postpartum anxiety are perinatal mood disorders and can affect parents of any gender. Left untreated, these conditions can slow down the bond with the new child, cause serious distress and even pose safety risks.

A perinatal unit is a place where parents with severe postpartum diseases receive care and treatment

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baby drawing

Babies tend to master muscle control in their hands before they master the speech† Many babies can learn sign language between six and nine months of age, long before they can speak clearly.

Sign language can help babies develop language skills, help people with developmental delays communicate, and reduce frustrating communication barriers. Parents can use the sign language most common in their country or simplified baby gestures, many of which are shared across multiple cultures and countries.

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To breastfeed

19% of transgender people in the USA are parents† Many parent organizations and caregivers use the term [https]“breastfeeding” to describe the process of feeding a baby with milk produced by the body.

Other related terms include breast milk, pregnant people, and such inclusive language that does not assume that the person who has given birth or who is breastfeeding a child identifies as a woman or as a “mother.” These terms refer to broad groups of people and to parents who want to use them: an individual mother can still call feeding her child breastfeeding.

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theybies

Limiting gender stereotypes in childhood children’s ambitions and affect their self-confidence† There are many ways parents approach this problem. A rare but rising option is raising a “sidebie”† This may include referring to the child as “she” rather than “he” or “she”, using a neutral name and refusing to answer questions about the child’s assigned gender. Adherents of this method believe that it allows the child to choose its own gender as it grows.

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freebirthing

A free delivery is a delivery without medical intervention. There is no doctor or certified obstetrician on site and the delivery can take place far from any hospital. Proponents of freebirthing often point out: cruelty and abuse in maternity wardsa problem that research confirms exists. However, freebirthing comes with significant risks of maternal or infant mortality† In some places it is illegal to give birth without medical help. Beloved of those considering free birth should respectfully discuss their concerns and alternatives.

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Transracial Adoption

A transracial adoptee is a child adopted by parents of different racial backgrounds† While many loving families are formed in this way, transracial adoptees can feel different from both their parents and people of their racial ethnicity. They may experience forms of racism that their parents do not fully understand.

It is important that all parents considering adoption research adoptee experiences and listen to the feelings of their children, especially parents of transracial adoptees.

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soft parenting

Gentle parenting is an emerging philosophy that aims to help children make decisions and approach tantrums and misbehavior in a gentler way. While some parents feel that gentle parenting is too emotional and indulgent, research shows that: gentle parenting techniques can lead to: better emotional regulation, behavior and mental health

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Intensive Mothering

Intensive mothering is the tendency of mothers to bear the full weight of their child development on their shoulders† They may feel responsible for constantly supervising their children, providing all or a significant portion of their children’s material needs, and sacrificing their own personal development to support their children. The pressure to be “perfect” can leave moms burned out and unfulfilled.

While this is common for mothers due to gender expectations, parents of any gender can experience this kind of pressure and burnout. Community and family support can be invaluable.

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TTC

Parenting blogs and vlogs have become popular sources of entertainment and information. TTC is an acronym for “trying to conceive” and it is one of many popular abbreviations in the blogosphere. Others include FTM (first-time mom), DC (darling child), and SAHM (stay-at-home mom). TTC is a particularly common acronym on IVF and infertility blogs† Infertility affects many parents and hopeful parents, and these blogs provide an opportunity for those who struggle to find comfort and support.

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